Comparison is the thief of all happiness. You are beautiful, you are smart, you are funny. Instead of celebrating diversity, comparison often requires that someone be labeled the winner and someone the loser. Our differences are what make us unique. Three little kids running around and another one on the way! Rather than getting deflated or feeling down — use it as a fuel to do better and become more than you gad possibly imagine.
Three days later our third child was born. It instantly got my wheels turning before I even finished my cup of coffee. It happened practically overnight that the word Confidence replaced the word Comparison, and I have surrounded myself with people who confirm my feelings. Once the coffee is finished, depending on the weather, I will either sit on the couch or my balcony and catch up on what happened overnight. More Radical Reads: Jealousy steals your joy by imposing unrealistic expectations.
It has to do with our eternal nature. I am writing a book, blogging once a week, building a software product, maintaining a few existing software products, and exploring new opportunities. What do you do to combat comparison? In theory this could lead to some positive benefits. But after some reflection, almost always I come to admit that I may not have given it all I got so I work upon that mindset and improve. As I grow physically and spiritually, I learn to accept who I am, appreciate what I have, grow where I am in life, and love how God made me.
Sugar is defo part of the picture! Okay maybe not me, but I did hear girls saying that in my 20s from other girls. If you are interested in finding out more about working with me with no obligation you can enter your name and email address below and find out more over the next few weeks. Because of comparison I never felt pretty enough, skinny enough, funny enough and because I spent all those years comparing myself to people who I thought were beautiful, funny and thin, I had no idea I was stealing from myself years of confidence and security. I look back at this now and wonder how we did it. I wore, out in public, a sleeveless shirt. My grandmother used to tell me to avoid comparing my life with other people.
And downward comparison, where you look for people who are worse or worse off than you in some way. And while it may be easy for me to believe the best about others, I find it difficult to believe the best about myself. Graduation was June 5, 1989. There always will be someone far away in the sky who might be doing far better than you. The basis of humans comparing — something called social comparison theory So a little info on social comparison theory — first put forward about 60 years ago by a social psychologist called Leon Festinger.
You can find that post. Your body digests carbs far quicker than protein and fats. Reminding myself that comparison in those areas will only discourage me from moving forward. There will always be someone who could run faster, had nicer clothes, took regular vacations, was allowed to wear makeup and always had the latest and greatest. So this is the reason why she seems to be so happy this time.
Every life will taste loss. Some lives have more blessings and some have more suffering and loss. Comparison is the thief of all happiness. There is only one of you and it's perfect. Has your weight really gone up permanently compared to your friends or have you just been overindulging at Christmas just like everyone else? I think so many of us focus on what someone else is doing and forget that we have goals of our own. And since everyone is in the business of using social media to propel themselves another rung up the social comparison ladder, your chosen points of comparison can get out of reach pretty quickly and that can hit you where it hurts. She said something however, that sparked a bit of a train of thought on a surprisingly clear Welsh day.
And downward comparison generally makes you feel better about yourself. They view it as the self-evident goal that they should pursue, find, and remain in, as if it were a job or a house. She has created a great post and a gratitude journal to share with you all today. Because I settled, I ended up being in a long term relationship with a married man. I started going grey when I was 24 years old. The lovely Melody from is an incredibly inspiring blogger who I am blessed to call my friend. Mark was just starting graduate school by this time, and because I changed majors, I had a little less than two years left of school.
Show me your friend and I will tell who you are, Know yourself and never be distracted in life for God has great expectation of you. To the point that they want to be exactly like them. The way I wish I had responded to her. You will miss the blessing and beauty of today if you are comparing yourself to someone else. She showed me their marks — they were quite poor this time. Can you imagine a world full of exactly the same people? More Radical Reads: How do I prevent comparison and jealousy from stealing my joy? Now I jump to empathy, and I really feel her pain; the vulnerability she shared with me, the pregnant one, from one who so desperately wanted to be pregnant. Our true significance lies not in the endless comparing of ourselves to one another, trying to see who is the fittest, using scales of evaluation and meaning that differ in the heart and mind of every individual; no - it lies in our deeds alone with the time we have.