They tend to be very responsible and take very good care of others which helps create the delusion that everything is normal but we guess at normal. The only way to do this is to be also be fit, well put together, get a little botox even, be confident, educated, happy, and fun! I was always independent and will continue to remain independent. When women say that they are fit and attractive but they are not looking for the same in men, they still send the same message. And when I do nothing ever happens…except I get used as a source of free drinks or dinner and poof never hear from them again. I am 50, recently single after an empty nest.
I work to support myself so I am not looking for money. This could go for women too I suppose, but I date men. From what I have found with the men in my group 40 and below is they really just want to have a conversation where there is no drama and judging. Whether I will ever share my life again with someone is not really a concern of mine. I'm really into younger men, they are super fun. The Sexpot is all about putting out the sex vibe. To these men, I do not give them one more second of my time.
Even though I'm talking to the guys here, many of these points apply to you too. Debbie It is sickening to me to hear this. The world has changed and so many are self-centered and materialistic. You know that dating after 40 or at any stage of life, for that matter! Agree that the 50 something ladies are alright. And some of us have a lot of it. I have two single male friends in their mid to late 50s who are physically fit and good-looking to the ladies.
We are age-mates and you have qualities I would be looking for. I really hope you find someone who will respect you and value you for who you are. The other qualities are important but will not matter unless that first piece is present. I used to run all over the state with a buddy of mine to go hike and fish as many places as possible. Focus on having fun and getting to know the person. Where is the happy medium lol. There are a lot of lovely ladies of different age group out there,spread your wings,get to know people.
I gave up trying to date 3 years ago. And that experience, while usually helpful, can also work against them. Yes they do want you to help raise their kids and do it all over again. Most men are not interested in seeing a Doctor to get that fixed. Or perhaps we are more conditioned to desire that type of man growing up.
They meet wonderful men who are very understanding. I want to share my life with someone who wants the same thing I do. It means you can make some shifts and quickly improve your results. Me, I prefer less stress and so I guess you could say I am trying to slow life down instead of speed it up. True story: One friend was dating this guy who kept using kid excuses not to see her. Was it after you bought that super cool sportscar? You may never know where you might end up finding ur happiness.
I want nothing more than to be best friends with a woman and spend the rest of my life devoted and loyal to her. Fucking a 25 year old is just fucking. I still listen to Led Zeppelin and Steely Dan. Seems like a contradiction and very immature on her part. I am not conceited I am convinced. Unfortunately there are a lot of older women who let the disappointment and fear get to them.
There's much to learn and enjoyment to be had from both options. Are these truly requirements and worthy of dismissing a man who does not possess the quality? And what you put out and expect is what you get. You are merely a victim of nasty and sad circumstance, rather than a strong, smart woman in charge of her life. And with no children to fall back on either just makes it worse for me since i always wanted children when we were married. Taxmeless This is my perspective. Why rehash the past, even on the internet? I also agree that many focus on the negatives of relations between the sexes. Do you like yourself and feel good when you are with her? It is tough to not become despondent, but the fact is there is still hope.
There are good guys out there still. Thanks for the interesting article. I want to let you know that if this is your experience you may want to look at how you might change things up a little. Do you see how insurmountable this has become for men? You could be fit as a fitness model, have a sparkling personality — but as a guy — if you are say, less attractive in the face, that pretty much rules it out. But we jump in anyway, hoping it could work. I — we all — very much appreciate your comments.
I feel like you need to further examine your attitude moving forward. But on a personal level we keep feeling it's somehow better. I am not looking at her as a vehicle to increase my standard of living. Only he doesn't want to change his life or schedule one iota for her. I just wish my life had turned out differently. I wish there were support groups for dating! It would be nice to meet someone who is honest, looking for someone their age not 20 years younger.